Am I being too sensitive??

[alyceavary]

Here in my local paper, we have what are called "Rant & Raves". An issue came up and you KNOW how I love to voice my opinion. So I did. Here's how it went down:

Sept. 24:
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage. Did they stop teaching kids this rhyme? This is not how it happens today.

Sept. 26:
I agree with the person about people having children before marriage. It's a shame that people act like it's no big deal. They glorify it and make it seem like it's OK. Many of these children end up with no father figure!

Sept. 28:
My reply: Yes, having a mother and a father is ideal, but what about those situations when a man (or a woman in some cases) is abusive to that child? Or a man has no desire to be in that child's life? How dare you judge me for being a single mom when you have no idea what my situation is. And a father figure doesn't have to be a "father," that could be filled by a grandfather or uncle. Or by two dads or two moms.

Someone else: Don't imply that it's always the woman's fault! Why doesn't "daddy" step up to the plate? If he didn't want children, he should have taken precautions like: vasectomy, abstinence, contraceptives. Take responsibility for your children — pay child support and be part of your children's lives. You helped make 'em so you help support 'em.

Oct. 2:
You single mothers obviously didn’t read! The comment was about how it has become acceptable in today’s society for girls/women to have children out of wedlock. Yes, there are many single mothers out there, myself included, but I was a married adult when I decided to have a baby.

Reply I have submitted (waiting to see if it gets published): I wasn't married when I got pregnant, nowhere near being married and I'm STILL not ay closer. But, there is NOTHING in my religion that says I HAVE to be married first. Not everyone in this area, country, or world has the exact same religion. I am absolutely proud that I don't have to depend on a man to complete me and ecstatic that I didn't marry the guy who got me pregnant because he has NEVER been there for my child or me.

Now, am I being too sensitive on the subject? I know that I tend to jump off the deep end and read too much into things......just wanting outside opinions. BTW, you can read the other submissions and get an idea of what is going on in this area by going to www.valdostadailytimes.com and clicking on Rant & Raves.

[The Mad Hatter]

I do not think you are being too sensitive. The other replies are just an extension of misplaced moral superiority based on primarily misconceived religious concepts.

[BadBeast]

You were doing fine I think, right up to the point where you said "religion" There first one who brings anything religious into an argument like this, loses said argument. At least, they lose it in the eyes of the people who are reading the local papers. They want quantifiable points, real life anecdotal evidence, factual (or even just "seems legit" kinda factual) accounts of how even though there are many hardships in bringing up a kid on your own, "not having a man" is so low on the list that you barely notice it.

It doesn't matter whether it's true or not, (You're not going to change any minds by telling "The Truth" anyway) what matters is that you win the argument. Hopefully their moderators won't pass it.
If they do, and have an edit option, you could change a couple of words, and still win. . . . "But, there is NOTHING in my religion conscience that says I HAVE to be married first. Not everyone in this area, country, or world has the exact same religion values".

That should be enough. People can accept that you might possibly have better values than the next person, but if you start telling them your God is better than their God, you lose the sympathy of the moral majority really quickly. And the minute they think your religion doesn't have a Jesus in it, they'll turn on you like a pack of rabid . . .rabid erm . . . . rabbits?

Maybe rabid is too strong, a word. Turn on you like a pack of . . pissy bunny wabbits? Yep, that sounds about right. (If you say it in your mind, with Elmer Fudd's voice)


Sorry, forgot to answer the question, Yes, you probably are being just a tiny bit too sensitive.

But I do understand. That sweet, sweet taste of victory is all that matters. You need to be rather than . Now get back out there, and rip 'em up! This is SPARTA!

[alyceavary]

LOL IF it gets printed, it won't show up until tomorrow or the next day. There is o edit option. I'm not sure how they choose which submissions to print. We'll have to wait and see. It's REALLY funny around December with all the "Jesus is the reason for the season" "No, Christmas was taken from the Pagans by the Christians" debates that pop up. I just sit back and smile. LOL

[User]

Send in a letter saying you agree about love/marriage/baby in that order so you got an abortion. Wait for the hilarious replies to start rolling in.

[Random Panther]

Hahahahaha that's fucking genius!

I would have pointed out that people often have children and stay together without getting married,so the father figure argument is further weakened...although it doesn't pertain to your situation. But the outside(Often family members,Uncles,Grandfathers etc and even community members or family friends become all the father figure a child could need or want) father figure argument is stronger still.

[Random Panther]

What's The Blue Caterpillar's Grammar Control Department's ruling on the capitalization of the word father...and what is the penalty incurred for the contravening of said ruling?

[The Mad Hatter]

Depends on if it is at the beginning of a sentence.

[Random Panther]

...so I guess the same rules apply for uncle and grandfather,either way I may have infracted a byclause somewhere...

...aren't they titles though? Do we not capitalize titles?

[The Mad Hatter]

It is only a title when used as a pronoun, IE; Father Kiddiefiddler.

[Random Panther]

Ah,shite!,in that case I HAVE circumnavigated a subclause,forgive my ignorance.

[alyceavary]

Oct 2, 2012 16:29:31 GMT -5 User said:

Send in a letter saying you agree about love/marriage/baby in that order so you got an abortion. Wait for the hilarious replies to start rolling in.

I just may do that....lol